Think Different

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes…”

I wrote this post a few days ago, but saved it in my draft folder. Almost as if I hadn’t finished with it, almost as if I needed to read someone else’s perspective. And then I stumbled upon a blog post that so closely mirrored how I was feeling that it took my breath away. The author captured that moment when we are suddenly aware of our surroundings: the mud beneath our feet, the clouds in the sky, and the various sounds the wind makes.

I realized that there was something I had left out in my own post. Gratitude. And I am thankful.

I am in Phoenix, Arizona, sighing with pleasure as I bask in the sun and stare at a robin’s egg blue sky. It looks like someone has stretched cotton batting across its surface, so I am playing a game of “What Shape Is It?” I used to play this game when I was little, but I can’t remember the last time I gave myself permission to play it. When my kids were small, maybe?

One of the shapes looks like the Snow Queen from Hans Christian Anderson has spread her arms wide in her quest to reach the heavens.

The sad truth is that I don’t allow myself the luxury of playing creative games like this, now that I’m a grown up. Or, at least, not very often. Why not? The obvious answer is that I consider them to be a waste of time – time that could be better spent cleaning, preparing meals, or writing.

In short, I could be doing something more productive.

So, it’s clearly time to “think different”. In that light, here is today’s intention: I will take at least 5 minutes every day to merely observe. Whether it’s a snow-capped mountain in Phoenix, or a snow-covered hill in my backyard in Toronto, I will rest from the need to do.

Because if something lifts your spirits – like watching a sunset that would take your breath away, or flakes of snow sliding down my kitchen window – then what in the world could be more productive than that?

And let me add another intention: I will practice being grateful. Gratitude will be the first thing I choose to embrace each morning, rather than choosing to focus on my to-do list.

And, lastly, I will count my blessings, rather than keeping a list of grievances. Because, when all is said and done, I have a pretty good life.

Come to the Edge

By Sophfronia Scott

image of woman on a cliffHow big do you think? When it comes to thinking about writing a book or planning strategy for a business, it seems we’re constantly being told to “Think Big”. Goals are supposed to be just big enough to make us uncomfortable. I do understand the importance of thinking big: it makes you stretch yourself and test your abilities.

But there’s a downside to thinking big: it can inspire fear. When you think too big or try to do too much, the possibility of failure looms. You fear failing, you fear trying. Next thing you know, you’re frozen with fear. I walk this line constantly. My current writing projects can easily be described as “ambitious” so fear is constantly lurking at the edge of the forest of my mind. Can I really write this? Can I finish it? When the fear rises, I find these two quotes to be helpful:

“‘Come to the edge,’ He said. They said, ‘We are afraid.’ ‘Come to the edge,’ He said. They came. He pushed them… and they flew.” — Guillaume Apollinaire

“You don’t have to save the whole world in a single bound. Small steps, taken again and again, will accomplish far more than any grandiose scheme.” — Ralph Marston

Notice in the first quote that the “they” do not have to start out flying. They are not asked to jump. They only have to “come to the edge”. The rest of what they needed–momentum, circumstance, opportunity (or, in this case, a friendly push)–showed up and took them the rest of the way. In the second quote, again, you see that you don’t have to accomplish the big thing all at once. You start small and you do something small. As you walk you achieve the world along the way.

You don’t have to write a 400-page book or execute a million-dollar business strategy all in one week. But you can write one page. You can send out one email or one letter to promote a product or service. You can then write another page, mail a postcard, or start a newsletter. Before you know it, you’ll be on your way.

And here’s the best part: as you’re moving along and taking your small steps, you won’t have space in your mind for fear. Every small accomplishment will push it further and further away. Then your book will be written, your business will be successful, and you will be flying. Come to the edge.

© 2010 Sophfronia Scott

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Writing is a Job

In a recent Washington Post article, Ann Patchett made a New Year’s resolution. She discovered a “radical concept — time spent working equals output of work.” It dawned on her that writing is a job, and therefore not to be taken lightly. You mean… it’s not something that I squeeze in between jaunts to the supermarket, dry cleaners, hair salon, and doctor’s appointments? Not to mention laundry, scouring the oven, and cleaning toilets?? All of which I do to avoid sitting down at the computer and facing my Inner Editor, by the way.

It’s not that I’m actually afraid of my Inner Saboteur (who, when my writing instructor asked the class to put a face and name to it, turned out to be an annoying Leprechaun, utterly devoid of the power and magnificence of The Great and Powerful Oz).

The fact is…I buy into pretty much everything he has to say. And it turns out that I’m not the only writer who does.

According to Ann Patchett (who, incidentally, is the author of five novels, including Bel Canto (winner of the PEN/Faulkner Award and the Orange Prize),

“Writing is an endless confrontation with my own lack of talent and intelligence, because if I were as smart and talented as I ought to be, I would have finished this book by now. I would consider avoiding work the better plan were it not for the fact that to have written a book, to have finished it, is such a glorious thing that it is worth whatever suffering is meted out in the process.”

The trick, I think, is to see the Inner Editor for who he (or she) truly is: the man behind the curtain, whose sole purpose in life is to keep us safe – protected from even a glancing blow of failure.

Once I managed to see his true colours, I took great delight in throwing back the curtain, and showing him the door. Not that he doesn’t skulk into my office whenever he can get the chance. But, he’s an intruder, and ever since the day I stood up to him and stripped him of his title of General Know-It-All, I was ready to accept a new voice into my creative hub room. A voice that gently guides me through the miasma of creating something even vaguely readable.

So, who knows? Maybe, now that I have a new boss, and I take the time each day to actually work on this novel that’s been taking up every square inch of space in my brain for the past two years – actually see it as a job – the results won’t be half bad. Or, as Ann Patchett said, it “may well be brilliant. Now there’s a beautiful thought.”

Going After the Things You Want

“Television is a medium because it is neither rare nor well done” – Ernie Kovacs

I have the kind of cold that sends you underground. This place is either your bed, or the room where your TV resides. I grew up in a home where daytime TV was considered verboten. The message I absorbed was that couch potatoes fall into two categories: (1) they suffer from a debilitating illness, or (2) they are malingerers.

So, of course, when this mother of all colds hit this week, I hit the TV trail. And Oprah was my first pitstop. Adam Lambert and Susan Boyle were her guests, and I settled in with my blankie, a box of man-sized Kleenex, and a hefty mug of scalding tea. My greatest wish was to escape, even for an hour, the constant need to blow my nose and hack into my arm.  

What I didn’t expect was that I’d end up sobbing into my Kleenex, while warbling along with Adam Lambert. And I certainly didn’t expect to be jolted out of my snug, safe place by two such divergent personalities as Adam Lambert and Susan Boyle.

As soon as the credits rolled at the end of the show, I ran for my journal. My hand flew across the page, downloading everything that’s been sitting inside, afraid to show its face to the world (or at least some of it):

  • Don’t be afraid of what you want.
  • And don’t be afraid of going after it.
  • Visualize your dream; then take action.
  • Take what you do seriously, but have fun with it.                                                           
  • Your gift lies within, but it belongs to the world.
  • So give it – fearlessly, willingly, lovingly. The world has never seen your gift before, I promise you.

Why Be a Fearless Writer?

image of a tightrope walkerLast week I started a conversation about fear and declared this year to be “The Year of Living Fearlessly”. I mentioned that writers already hold a certain amount of fearlessness. This week I’d like to go a little further and think about what fearlessness looks like to a writer–and why it’s so important for you to cultivate fearlessness.

There’s a piece from a book review written of John Steinbeck’s East of Eden that I keep on my desk. It refers to the book as, “A novel planned on the grandest possible scale…One of those occasions when a writer has aimed high and then summoned every ounce of energy, talent, seriousness, and passion of which he was capable…” Now one could say that if a writer is “aiming high”, he is working from ego and hubris. That may be true.

But I think what such aim really requires is fearlessness. Only a fearless writer can dive into the depths and truthfully describe what he observes in the most devastatingly beautiful way he can. Only by facing the fear of your writing not being good enough can you ensure that it will become excellent.

Learning how to handle fear, I believe, is one of the most important skills we can master. The author Matthew Kelly, in his insightful program, Living Every Day with Passion and Purpose, points out that the phrase “Do not be afraid,” appears over a thousand times in the Bible, words often attributed to God Himself. Why is that? Because, as Mr. Kelly says, “God knows the measure of our life is the measure of our courage.”

I believe he’s right, and that’s why I feel it’s important to have this discussion right now. The measure of your life will be the measure of your courage. It is up to you to decide whether you are up to the challenge or whether you will fall short. But I will tell you this: I believe you can measure up to be far greater than you imagine.

© 2010 Sophfronia Scott

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Will 2010 be ‘Business as Usual’ for You?

When you look back on the past decade, what do you say about yourself?

Honestly? Many people would respond, “I spent my time waiting, whining, worrying, and wishing.”

Case in point:

 While many companies waited for (and are still waiting for) the economy to rebound, Reebok launched Travel Trainers, a lightweight, packable sneaker – sold in Japan from airport vending machines.

While American auto-makers whined about high gas prices for the dearth of gas-guzzling SUVs they produced, Honda built the Pilot, a car that looks like an SUV but gets twice the gas mileage.

While you’ve been waiting for the muse to strike so you can start something amazing, thousands of entrepreneurs have launched successful small businesses.

  •  What’s your biggest regret about the 2000s?
  •  What do you wish you had started, joined, invested in, or built?
  • Do you wish you’d at least had the courage to try?

Here’s a challenge for you for the new decade:

Find ideas that matter and to share them. Push yourself and those around you to demonstrate gratitude, insight, and inspiration. Take risks.

Choose optimism. Choose action. Choose excellence. Don’t be satisfied with “business as usual.” Do “business as unusual.”

With thanks to Seth Godin. This article is adapted from his book, Small is the New Big, pp. 256-259. Seth’s words inject me with the courage to do business as unusual.

Laura Christianson owns Blogging Bistro (www.bloggingbistro.com), a company that helps businesses and individuals enhance their Internet presence through Web sites, blogs, and social media marketing (particularly Twitter and Facebook).

She’s the author of three books and particularly enjoys mentoring emerging writers and teaching at Christian writers’ conferences. Laura lives with her husband and their two teenage sons in the Seattle area.

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Words to Live By

It’s the beginning of a new decade and I can feel a tsunami of wants, desires, and dreams roiling just beneath the surface. So I’m taking Chris Brogan’s advice: Pick 3 words for 2010.

“I’ve practiced something I call “my 3 words,” where I come up with three words that I use as guidance for how I should conduct my efforts in the year to come. I set goals around these three words. I build deadlines and projects around these words. They don’t have to mean anything to you, but the process might prove interesting to you, especially if you’ve found goal-setting difficult in the past.”

I stepped away for a while and gave  myself time to unearth them from the coffers of my subconscious, where, no doubt, they’ve been slumbering for who knows how long. Slowly, over the course of the morning, they popped into my mind, one at a time, like the burst of flavour on your tongue when you bite into a juicy fruit gum.

So, without further ado, here are my 3 words for 2010: Freedom, Unique, Authentic.

Where to go from here? Well, I can erect a few signposts to help me on my journey. Here’s one:

Gifts to myself:

  • sing when I feel like it, without giggling behind my hand and muttering, “oh…dear” immediately afterward.
  • laugh more often, especially for no reason. In other words, take life less seriously.
  • be grateful for every breath I take, every delicious moment on this earth.
  • write every day, without editing, judgment, or walls. Allow the creative process to unfold willy-nilly, unburdened by the voice that stifles.
  • play with my voice; i.e., the spoken word, as well as the written one. Allow my authentic voice to ring out, loud and clear. Take a page from Edith Bouvier Beale, who played with her uniqueness and therefore remained a child forever. (I’ll take the best parts of her and throw away the weird stuff.)

So, that’s it for now. Maybe I won’t take life so darned seriously in this brand spanking new decade. And maybe I’ll be more open to whatever crops up for me. Resistance is futile, anyway, so I might as well throw my arms wide and enjoy the ride.

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Let Your Dreams Fly

Like most people, I’m feeling a definite itch to do something big in 2010. There, I’ve said it. The sky didn’t fall in, the applecart wasn’t turned over, and I’m still standing. At the beginning of a new decade, I feel like the world is waiting…waiting for me to make a change, take a stance, push beyond self-imposed limits. Well, ok, the world doesn’t give a rip, but I do.

So, I’m going to let my dreams fly. In order to receive all that I’ve ever dreamed of, I have to let go of the old, though. Open my tightly clenched hands in order to receive the new. The unexplored, the undiscovered, in short.

Wheeeee….I can’t wait for January 1st….

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